When he begs forgiveness for the sin of the golden calf, Moses opens with “Why, O LORD, should your wrath flare against Your people…Wasn’t God’s anger justified? How could Moses begin this way? Rashi brilliantly points out that before Moses says a word, God tells him: now leave Me be. Moses understood that God was not closing the door but quite the opposite. Seeing Moses’ silence, God invited him to beg for mercy and to not let go. Accepting this invitation, Moses opens with what he now understands God wants to hear: “Why, O LORD, should your wrath flare against Your people…Similarly, when something goes wrong or someone is hurt, it is difficult for people to show vulnerability and so they may say one thing but a discerning listener understands that they mean something else altogether.